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FEATURE ARTICLE
Are You Sabotaging Yourself?
By Coach Patti
Kouri, Master Coach
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"People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking
that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the
first secret of success." - Norman Vincent Peale
By
coming to my Jumpstart workshop or by participating in one-on-one
coaching or playing the Real Estate Game with me people learn about the
subtle (and not so subtle) ways we sabotage our success when pursuing
our goals. In this article I thought I'd share a little wisdom with you
as some of you are already starting to sabotage your first of the year
goals.
Think
about a project, dream, or goal that you've been trying to achieve. Then
answer "true" or "false" to the following statements:
When
pursuing this goal
1. I
tend to work alone and forget (or neglect) to ask for help.
2. I often confuse a lack of information with a belief that something
can't be done.
3. I tend to rely primarily on my intellect rather than including my
intuition.
4. I have a tendency to draw conclusions without enough information.
5. I often compare myself to others (or their products, services, etc.).
6. I expect myself to master a new skill, craft or behavior very
quickly.
7. I neglect to consider and/or plan for unforeseen difficulties.
8. I've been known to measure my success based on unrealistic
expectations.
The more
"true" answers you have, the more likely you are to be a victim of
self-sabotage. Now, as you think about your answers, it's important to
remember that what looks like self-sabotage is usually just an attempt
to protect yourself from perceived danger, fear and anxiety. Or, you may
simply lack information.
Rather
then beat yourself up for not moving forward (just another form of self
sabotage by the way, use the following questions as a guide to enlisting
the resources you need to begin enjoying the process of pursuing your
goals: .
1. Who can
help you achieve this goal? .
2. What information might you be missing? If you're not sure, ask
someone.
3. How will you use your intuition in a more proactive way? .
4. What assumptions need to be challenged? .
5. Are you dismissing a great idea just because someone else has already
done it?
6. Where are you expecting yourself to be an "overnight expert?"
7. Have you considered (and planned for) the worst-cased scenario?
8. How realistic are your expectations based on the time frame you have
planned? .
One of the
biggest revelations for my clients is how our unresolved past hinders
the pursuit of our goals.
At our
deepest core, we all long to express our unique talents and abilities.
Not only for personal or professional gain, but to express and share our
special gifts with the world. These gifts deserve to be honored and
celebrated (as opposed to downplayed and suppressed). It's time to start
living out loud, without getting in your own way!
Coach Patti's Challenge
Choose a
project, dream or goal. Then, take 30 minutes to answer the questions
listed above in writing. Next, share your answers with a supportive
friend or colleague to determine your next step. "If what you've been
doing isn't working, try something else. If that doesn't work, ask for
help."
Go out
and make something wonderful happen today! Something wonderful is
happening to you today! People love to give you money!
Warmest,
Coach Patti
www.CoachPatti.com
818-341-9751
Supporting you to break thru self made limitations!
Meet
Coach Patti
Patti Kouri, (Coach Patti) GRI, is a professional success coach, trained
through Coach University and the Coach Training Institute. She has held
her California Real Estate License since 1987 and has focused on life
coaching since 1994 and has coached thousands of clients. In her
practice, Coach Patti works closely with Realtors, people in sales, and
people that want to make a difference or change in their life. Visit
Coach Patti's website at
www.CoachPatti.com . |
February 2006, First Edition ________________________________________________________________________
