Dump the New Year's Resolution Idea! Instead, come up with 3-5 words of who/how you'd like to BE this year....

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=========================================================== Hello from Dallas, Texas!

I am writing this newsletter edition today while looking out at the melting snow. It actually snowed here the other day and the last signs of the ice are melting away today. Yes, it snows in Texas! It's been kind of fun, really. There is a crisp, fresh feeling here and snow always makes me think of new beginnings, for some reason..Which leads us to the topic of this newsletter..

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NEW BEGINNINGS: To DO or To BE?

AS you start out the new year, I bet you are thinking of all of the great things you would like to DO this year, right? Call it a New Year's Resolution, a To-Do List, or a Fresh Start, but no matter how you look at it, the beginning of another year is an ideal time to look at your life.

Let me suggest another way of looking at this, though.. I'm giving you full permission to dump the Resolution idea altogether!!! I'd like you to consider all of the ways you would like to BE this year. Instead of saying you will lose weight, make more money, spend quality time with family, find your ideal job, etc......, I'd like you to simply focus on how or WHO you would like to BE this year...Let me explain.

Many people are very confused about what they'd like to do this year or with the rest of their life. They are stumped. They have no idea. I have felt this way before, too, so I understand.... The trick is to stop trying to solve the dilemma.. Give up figuring out what you want to DO this year or in this lifetime and simply pinpoint on WHO you would like to BE. This way, the DOING will follow....

For example, you may decide you want to BE:
* a superb listener
* gracious
* crafty, creative
* persistent
* magnetic, able to easily attract people, ideas and things to you
* peaceful, centered
* direct, forthright
* highly skillful
* soulfully connected to another person
* open with emotion
* radiantly healthy

Ahhhh, another list of words for you to compose. Fun, right? It really is fun if you get into it with your heart. AS you focus on the BE words you've listed for yourself, think about what gets in the way of these things for you? What PREVENTS you from being open with emotion? What PREVENTS you from being peaceful? Oftentimes, the best course of action is to ELIMINATE whatever prevents you from naturally being the way you truly want to be..

So now, come up with 3-5 words (or more) that thrill you,, If someone walked up to you on the street and said, "WOW, you are so ______?" What words would you like to hear? Those are your BE words.. Don't worry, they might be a total stretch for you, but if they excite you, write them down.

Next, look at what gets in the way of you BEING those words you chose. Now, work on eliminating those obstacles. If you CRAVE for someone to say" WOW, you are a SUPERB LISTENER," then take a look at what PREVENTS you from being a superb listener now. Are you distracted by too much work to focus on someone else? Are you unable to listen carefully since you are consumed with trying to come up with a solution for the other person since you LOVE to always be right and an expert? Are you less than a superb listener since you are loaded up on caffeine or sugar and have to practically strap yourself down to a chair to sit still long enough to listen to another? What is it for you? Take some time to think about it then DO what it takes to eliminate these obstacles. You have now come up with a list of things to DO this year in support of BEING exactly how you want to BE.

I've been doing this same exercise for the past several years.. One of my words from years back was, "superb listener." That little example from above was ME many years ago. Delightful, I know : ). But, I realize how this one, simple, BE phrase "superb listener" has led me to where I am today. My JOB is to BE a superb listener. And, I am. My soul gave me a hint when it surfaced up the "superb listener" phrase many years ago.. And, it led me to my ideal career without too much struggle.

My point here is that THERE IS MAGIC IN YOUR "BE" WORDS. Select them carefully and with your heart. Then, put a plan into action to become those words. That is your focus for the year!

Another POPULAR word is "peaceful." I hear this one from people all of the time.. This was one of my words many years back, too. I remember how hard it was for me to admit this since it meant admitting I was NOT peaceful. I also remember the day I met a total stranger who shook my hand and said "You are the most peaceful person I've met in a long time.." I practically fell out of my chair. You, TOO, will have a magical moment like this one when you are recognized for BEing exactly how you intended. Be on the lookout. Another story....One of my clients had a similar experience where she declared she would BE "a gracious hostess" for a party she was planning.. Keep in mind, this was an ambitious goal for her : )... Then, at the party, someone looked her square in the eye, shook her hand on the way out the door and said "You are the most GRACIOUS HOSTESS."... Mission accomplished. I wonder what someone will say to YOU? Hmmmmmmmmmm?

I'd love to see your list of 3-5 BE words for the year. Feel free to email me. Here are 3 questions to ask yourself about each BE word....

1. What one word thrills, excites, and send shivers up my spine? What is the one word I'd LOVE to be described as?

2. What PREVENTS me from naturally BEING this one word? What gets in the way?

3. What could I DO on a routine, ritualistic basis to develop into this word? (for example, if you want to be more "open with emotion" you could begin to share one totally HONEST/meaningful thought about you with a spouse or friend each day, or start a journal, or send a card or note once a week to a different friend letting them know how they impact you/why you are grateful for them, etc.)

I hope you enjoy this one!! I encourage you to BE focused and take time to select your 3-5 words today....Proudly post them on an index card all around your house, car, work etc.. You will want to remind yourself of these words constantly.......It will help! Also, feel free to email me if you need any help with this...I love to BE helpful: )

Lots of love....

KristinCoach

KristinCoach
Life and Career Coach
A "TOP 50 Coaching Website" www.KristinCoach.com
VoiceMail 972 386 9753

THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK:

"Maintaining a complicated life is a great way to avoid
changing it."
--Elaine St. James