Building a great life as you would build a house. part 2. media mention. discovering your needs.

Welcome to KristinCoach.com NEWS - Magnetic Living
November 9, 2001.
Written by life and career coach, KristinCoach.
Past issues are available at the newsletter section of the website.

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Welcome.

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The Juicy Topics In This Issue Are......

1. Welcome!
2. Quotes of the Week
3. Feature Article - Building a Great Life - Part Two
4. TRY THIS/Lifework - Uncover your needs

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1. Welcome
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Welcome Back!

This week's article is a continuation of the "building a great life" concept. Please see the past issues of the newsletter section of KristinCoach.com to read the last excerpt.

Also, many of you know about my "media attraction" project. Well, another article is out! Check it out at MSN.com - http://content.careers.msn.com/WorkingLife/Transitions/gctr090120.asp

I also want to recommend the movie, Monsters, Inc. Go see it with a kid or even by yourself.. I laughed out loud.. It's a sweet movie and you'll feel 5 years old again.

Enjoy your week!

Kristin

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2. Quotes of the Week.
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"There is no better exercise for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up."

~ John Andrew Holmes

"Be inspired with the belief that life is a great and noble calling;not a mean and groveling thing that we are to shuffle through as we can, but an elevated and lofty destiny."

~ William E. Gladstone

"Your life is a magical wonderland...and you are the magician. You can create anything you want."

~ MorningMantra.com (subscribe for a free thought of the day)

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3. Feature Article - Building a Great Life - continued
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Building a Great Life.....

Last time, we talked about the concept of building a great life just as you would build a sturdy house. You'll need a foundation/floors, walls and a roof.

Let's talk about the walls.

The walls of your life are your NEEDS. Think about what you NEED in your life in order to feel secure and happy. What do you need to surround yourself with in order to build a sturdy house strong enough to hold a roof (your ultimate dream..ultimate job, etc)?

SO, what are NEEDS? We all need certain things.. Food, shelter, etc.. But, many of us need much more such as appreciation, respect, connection etc.

And, we all go to great lengths to get our needs met, no matter what it takes.

For example, someone needing "to be respected" may stay in a job they do not like simply because they feel respected at work and nowhere else.. Or, someone needing "security" may stay in a job they do not like since it provides them with financial security...no matter how loathsome the work may be...

We'll do ANYTHING to get a need met.. So, what do you do if you do not want to be driven by your needs? You either get them met elsewhere, or you erase them somehow..

For example, if you have a need "to be respected," you may want to look for this respect outside of work. Try coaching a little league team and earn the respect of the kids and parents.. Or, to cover the "security" need, you may want to agressively save your money and build up a great financial reserve, until you feel safe.

Once you get your needs met in other ways, you'll find it much easier to break free from the yucky job or bad situation. Make sense?

Now, let's try to figure out what YOUR needs are? We all have them. Once you uncover your basic needs, the next step is to make sure each one has an outlet or is met in some way.. Once you do this, you will feel very solid as a person...and ready to support your big dream (the roof).

To figure out what YOUR needs are, peruse the list below. Try to pick out the top 5-10 things you know you MUST have in order to feel good. Which needs do you know you must fill in some way? Next, make sure you have OUTLETS for each of these needs. How could you get each need met? CREATE ways to get each need met. Once you figure this out, you will be able to build the sturdy walls to support your great life.

You will find this exercise in the TRY THIS/Lifework section below.

Happy week!

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4. TRY THIS/Lifework
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Pick your top 5-10 needs from the list. BE HONEST.

Approved
Be included
Respected
Permitted
Be popular
Sanctioned
Cool
Allowed
Tolerated
Achieve
Fulfill
Realize
Reach
Profit
Attain
Yield
Consummate
Victory
Be worthy
Be praised
Honored
Flattered
Complimented
Be prized
Appreciated
Valued
Thanked
Liked
Cherished
Esteemed
Held fondly
Be desired
Be preferred
Be relished
Be adored
Be touched
Correct
Not mistaken
Honest
Morally right
Be deferred to
Be confirmed
Be advocated
Be encouraged
Understood
Get attention
Be helped
Cared about
Be saved
Be attended to
Be treasured
Tenderness
Get gifts
Embrace
Clarity
Accuracy
Assurance
Obviousness
Guarantees
Promises
Commitments
Exactness
Precision
Luxury
Opulence
Excess
Prosperity
Indulgence
Abundance
Not work
Taken care of
Served
Be heard
Gossip
Tell stories
Make a point
Share Talk
Be listened to
Comment
Informed
Dictate to
Command
Restrain
Manage
Correct others
Be obeyed
Not ignored
Keep status quo
Restrict
Improve others
Be a critical link
Be useful
Be craved
Please others
Affect others
Need to give
Be important
Be material
Obligated
Do the right thing
Follow
Obey
Have a task
Satisfy others
Prove self
Be devoted
Have a cause
Unrestricted
Privileged
Immune
Independent
Autonomous
Sovereign
Not obligated
Self-reliant
Liberated
Forthrightness
Uprightness
No lying
Sincerity
Loyalty
Frankness
No censoring
No secrets
Tell all
Perfection
Symmetry
Consistent
Sequential
Checklists
Unvarying
Proper
Literal-ness
Regulated
Quietness
Calmness
Unity
Reconciliation
Stillness
Balance
Agreements
Respite
Steadiness
Authority
Capacity
Results
Omnipotence
Strength
Might
Stamina
Prerogative
Influence
Be noticed
Be remembered
Be known for
Regarded well
Get credit
Acclaim
Heeded
Seen
Celebrated
Security
Protected
Stable
Fully informed
Deliberate
Vigilant
Cautious
Alert
Guarded
Career
Performance
Vocation
Press, push
Make it happen
At task
Responsibility
Industriousness
Be busy

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There ya go! Hope you enjoyed all of this as much as I loved writing it. Want to add some fuel to the fire? Email your thoughts about this edition to KristinCoach@aol.com or hit reply to this broadcast.

Lots of love to you,

Kristin

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