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          Creating the Life You Want
                                                         June, 2006

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Some feedback on the Concepts Telephone Workshop:

Last nights class was great!
I feel like a beginner in this process and am amazed at each session. I have experienced changes in my life, even as a beginner. I'm excited to learn that I can clear some beliefs that have held me captive most of my life. 6 weeks just doesn't seem long enough. ~ Diana

I would say to someone wanting to know about the course, "If you are ready to empower yourself by taking responsibility for where you are at and where you would like to go, you will be inspired by Nancy's gift of intuition, direction and experience" and this class isn't for sissys :) ~ Sherilen

I'd tell others that this class will support you in taking 100% response-ability for your life, your thoughts, and your actions. Whether you are a beginner or a longtime traveler on the road to self-discovery and conscious intent, the class creates a space for you to go deeper. It is definitely not for whiners or wimps because in order to reap the benefits you have to be willing to feel, explore, and shift in order to heal. The concepts are "simple" but not necessarily "easy" because our lives are a complex web of our beliefs, feelings, and circumstances which we are constantly creating and recreating.~ Paula

If you're ready - details of the next class are below as well as the promised "Thoughts, Beliefs and Knowing" Fall Workshop.
For those of you who asked about the course I am taking in Metaphysical Mentoring there is an intro call announced below.
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There is no blame - things just are.
                                            ~ Michael Cavallaro, The 55 Concepts, A Guide to Conscious Living

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Our society is one of blame.
We blame everyone for everything.
If the operation doesn't go right it's the doctor's fault.
Litigation costs are so high doctors leave the state.
Are doctors really that incompetent?
I use this only as an example...

We blame the boss, our parents, the economy, the government for our woes. It's not our fault - it's theirs (because after all it has to be someone's fault)!

Blame is a game we play that allows us righteous indignation and the luxury of being so busy judging the speck in our neighbor's eye we miss the plank in our own.
The problem is as long as we blame others we can learn nothing. As long as we see ourselves blameless we are the victims of the world we live in. We are children who refuse to grow up. We are incapable of taking "control" of our world. When instead of blame we suspend judgment and look at our part in a situation we begin to grow and mature and own our own part as well as our power.

The boss is always mad and constantly changing her mind. Do we follow through? On time? As agreed? Is there a place in our lives where we are angry and inconsistent and attracting this? Have we asked what the problem is? How do we deal with it? By becoming surly? Gossiping? Subtle sabotage?

Many of us find we have scars from childhood. Do we use the scars for excuses? Pass them on to the next generation? Or become strong in the broken places? Our partner criticizes everything we do. Do we subtly or not so subtly do the same? Do we set them up? (This one has the potential of taking you to a whole new level of honesty!)

As long as we blame we can't see clearly what is really happening which means we are incapable of changing it. We make the other the scapegoat in order to escape our part in the situation. "If they would only change, things would be better," we say. And if they dare to suggest we contributed to the problem, our outraged reply is "It's not me - it's you!" While acting like it's someone else's fault may feel better in the short term, it never solves anything. If nobody picked up dinner on the way home, we can righteously point the finger at each other all day - but we're still going to both be hungry unless we choose to do something about it. Letting go of blame doesn't mean the other person is faultless, it just means that we are RESPONSE-ABLE for our own responses.

Blaming ourselves is no better than blaming others. Blame leads to the need to defend which misses what's actually going on completely and solves nothing.

The more we suspend judgment and and take responsibility for what happens in our world the more possibilities of life open up to us. If we take the time we waste blaming to look for solutions our lives become easier and less stressful.

Someone once suggested we should all have a sign on our bathroom mirror that says: "I AM NOW LOOKING AT THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR MY HAPPINESS."

So next time you get ready to blame think -
There is no blame - things just are.
How might I have contributed to this situation? (Remember: look at it, don't blame yourself!)
What is it I can change to make it work better?

If you change nothing else but retire from the blame game your life will be easier - I guarantee it - try it!

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Upcoming Open Events & Possibilities

A FREE INTRODUCTORY CALL ON
"Metaphysical Mentoring - The Course"
A Step Beyond Traditional Therapy and Coaching
Wednesday, June 14, Time: 8-9pm EDT
Call 1-641-297-5400 22333# note new number to call!
Are you ready for change? Invest in the rest of your life.
Change the things that keep you stuck!

Concepts for Conscious Living
Doylestown Health & Wellness Center
847 Easton Road, Warrington, PA, 18976
Wednesday, August 19th, 7-9pm
$25, to register call 215-918-5995 or go to www.wellnessdh.org

Concepts for Conscious Living Telephone Workshop
The Concepts Class is a prerequisite for the class on
Thoughts, Beliefs and Knowing. This will be the last
Concepts Class to qualify for taking the Fall class..
If you're interested in tools for making sense of life
if you're looking for ways to function better
so you can clear and do what you're here to do - Come!
FREE introductory call (all invited!)
Monday August 28th 8pm ET
1-641-297-5400 #11222

Actual Course:
6 weeks, Mondays, 8-9pm EDT
beginning September 11th
$175 for 1 or $300 for 2 & $26 for book and cards
$100 ($190 for 2) for clients and those who'd like to
grow some more by taking it again!
Double your value by doing the course with a partner!
Register by August 30th and cards and shipping are free
e-mail nancy@nancybaker.net for details
register early, last class was filled

Thoughts, Beliefs and Knowings
Learn how your thoughts and beliefs keep you where you
are and how to begin to change them
This class restricted to those who have completed the
6 week Concepts Telephone Workshop
6 weeks, Mondays, 8-9pm EDT beginning October 23rd
$200 includes booklet on Thoughts, Beliefs and Knowings
Register by October 1 and pay only $175
e-mail nancy@nancybaker.net for details

Concepts for Conscious Living - Master Level Coaching
ICF 11th Annual International Coaching Conference
Saturday, November 4, 2:15-3:45pm
America's Center, St. Louis, MO
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