An Unobstructed Way of Seeing Each Other
When we look at another person we see their physical being, but the way that they appear to us is most often filtered through many layers of ideas that we bring to the meeting. And then the other person is bringing their own ideas interpreting what is physically seen when they meet us. To call these things filters serves as an adequate metaphor, because depending on the content of our construct of intermeshed ideas, we will see things very differently, one from another. Relationships that become problematic should hardly surprise us if we do not first penetrate the layers of filters, making them transparent to us in the process. Until such transparency of conditioning is reached, we can thank the difficulties that relationships bring us, as the exactly perfect vehicles for doing this work.
By using the word relationship, what is meant is any meeting of any type, so this is not meant to address only couples, or bracket any special kind of being together, but simply any meeting at all. This is most easily applied in the beginning in the simplest of meetings such as with the cashier when you are out shopping, because these simple relations have less layers of filters than those people with whom you have more history. They do however contain quite a lot of the very basic patterns that underlie all of our human relationships, and can be very useful in bring those to consciousness.
As we meet another person, there is always the possibility that we may experience that we have met the pinnacle of human perfection, the Buddha, the Christ, in human form. Whatever else is there falls into the realm of the filters. It is very important not to then judge ourselves for filtering. It is a basic mental function, derived from our need to preserve our own well being through the history of our existence, personal and collective. The judging is another mental function, from the same source. If it arises it simply adds to the layering effect. The simplicity is in simply seeing what is there without allowing what is seen to be spun into additional layering. And when layering/filtering is seen to be there, by simply and curiously viewing what it is, we find that this changes it from actively creating experience to being transparent and not active in perception. This transparency allows us to see what is there without the effect of the filters.
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